If you read about how Row House NYC changed my life a few days ago, then you’ll know that 2017 is all about me overcoming my fears. And well, traveling alone is one of those fears I just HAVE to get over! I have absolutely no clue why I’m so darn afraid to travel on my own. (Aside from the fact that I’ve never traveled anywhere on my own, except to and from work. LOL)
So I guess I’m really just afraid of the unknown. I mean, I passed up on free tickets to Disney World last year because I was afraid! DISNEY FREAKING WORLD damn it. UGH! Of course I told myself (and everyone else) that we couldn’t go because of money. (Which at that point there was some struggle in that area. Some!) However, deep down inside I knew what the real problem was and it wasn’t money!
I was just too damn scared to get on a plane with my daughter, alone, for the very first time.
It bothers me to think about how much my fear hinders my happiness, but I’m determined to change that this year! Attending my first fitness class a few weeks ago definitely helped, but now I need to go a step further. So I decided to reach out to a few fellow bloggers, who are slaying when it comes to this solo travel life, and ask for some advice. (For you, and me. LOL)
Here’s what they had to say …
“Keep an old spare wallet in your purse with a couple of useless credit cards and about twenty bucks in it. This is what I like to call a “decoy” wallet. If you’re ever in a situation where you are robbed, you can hand the robber this wallet. Now there’s a great chance that you won’t ever be robbed abroad and an even greater chance that you’ll end up using that wallet right here on American soil. But as the cliché goes, it’s better to be safe than sorry later.” – Stephanie from urbantravelista.com
“Feel the fear and do it anyway. There will always be things we will be scared to do. If we don’t live past the fear we won’t ever grow. Start with something small. Go to the movies alone, eat alone, spend a day out and about alone, WITHOUT YOUR PHONE. Do all of these things without technology, get accustomed to your own company. I’m afraid we rely too much on technology when we travel and miss out on many of the dope moments. Be in the moment.” – Roni the Travel Guru from ronithetravelguru.com
“You never know how resourceful or independent or strong you are until you have to venture out on your own and rely on yourself. When you experience the thrill of your own adventure. Seeing your own plans come to fruition. Getting the nerve up to eat alone in a restaurant or doing a self guided tour and realizing it’s not so bad. You may even enjoy it and meet interesting people. Getting in touch with your own thoughts and your own desires and making those come true vs everyone else’s. It is very empowering. The confidence and strength you gain doing a solo trip will carry over into your personal and professional life.” – Nadeen from thesophisticatedlife.com
“My biggest pieces of advice is to just jump and book it. Plan out at least one activity for each day and have a loose itinerary for some things that you’d like to do. Download the offline area of the city that you are visiting on google maps, so if you lose data you’ll know where you’re going. Never pull out your map (or cellphone map app) in public, always duck into a shop or restroom when asking for directions or checking a map. If traveling internationally buy a money belt – which can hold your passport, money and other valuables underneath your clothing.” – Tiffany from tiffanyarlene.com
And there you have it!
I totally think Roni’s “go out and do things on your own first” tip is the best! I actually worked up the courage last year to go to a movie alone, and then realized I had just as much fun watching the movie alone, as I did watching it with someone else. (But then again, I went to see Kevin Hart. LOL) Either way, I’ll be going to a lot more movies this year alone now. But I also need to go to a restaurant alone. (You know, not Wendy’s, but a real restaurant. LOL) And then I’ll need to stay at a hotel alone. (The list goes on and on.)
But hopefully these tips help you just as much as they’ve helped me! And when you’ve decided to finally take your first solo trip, make sure you read this. (More tips from another blogger that travels often, that would be really useful right before you go.)
If you’re still having trouble booking that first flight out, read this, so you can remember that sometimes things do go wrong, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still keep living! Okay? (Don’t believe me? Here’s MY disaster from last year and how I overcame it so I could still enjoy my night.) But before you go …
Where would you like to go this year?
Leave a comment below and let me know!
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