So a few weeks ago, I attended a few of the events during Full Figured Fashion Week, and here’s what I learned …
1. I need a real camera!
It feels really good to snap photo after photo after photo, and not just because I need to take a thousand photos in order to get a few good looking ones, but because having a real camera in your hand feels freaking awesome! A fellow blogger asked me to take a photo of her using her camera, and I swear I was seconds away from running home and just buying myself a damn camera. LOL I guess, now I know what I want for my birthday!
2. Just because it’s a fashion event, doesn’t mean you have to wear heels!
My feet were hurting from day one, all the way up until the day after I quit (which you can read more about here because I know you’re currently staring at the screen like wait, what) and I was in flats, standing for about 2 hours, so imagine what it would have been like in wedges or heels! OMG! I knew I would be on my feet all week, so I bought a pair of black flats and a pair of white flats! I was going to buy some heels for the cruise, to wear with my dress, but my flats were cute enough for the entire day. Let me tell you how I was so happy to wear flats every time I heard someone mention how bad their feet were hurting. I know that pain all too well, and let’s just say I’m glad I dodged that bullet! LOL
3. I need to take ANOTHER public speaking class.
The way Marla Wynne and Madeline Jones (from PLUS Model Magazine) stood there and just talked so confidently in front of everyone made me realize I soooo need to work on my verbal communication skills. Yeah, I can hold a decent convo, and yeah I don’t stutter or stumble too much when talking, but to be able to stand in front of a group of people and confidently give a message like that! Ugh! And the sad part is, I know I need to because I know I’m gonna be someone’s boss one day. I mean, I want my own business, which means I’m gonna need an entire staff. I can’t just hire someone to talk for me. Wait can I? LOL
4. I need to work on my poses.
Boy do they suck. LOL I really need to practice in the mirror or something because some of these ladies are just bam, bam, bam and I’m like ughhhh! WDH! (Wait, I’m absolutely forgetting that I was surrounded by actual models and bloggers who have probably been attending events for years. LOL) That still doesn’t make me feel any better though. I need to step my photo game up!
5. I’m more comfortable around people who are just like me …
… awkward, hids in the corner, stands alone, please talk to me but please don’t take my photo kind of people. LOL I’m not saying anyone I talked to was awkward, but what I’m saying is, I’ve never really felt like I fit in with the “in crowd”. I know some people probably look at me and go aww she’s pretty; hell, my kids think I was popular when I was in school. LOL Nope! Sure I knew a bunch of people and maybe they knew me to, but I wasn’t really friends with them. I noticed the same thing during FFFWeek. Like yeah I can talk and laugh with some of the bigger bloggers, but after a while it sort of gets weird. Hell I didn’t even KNOW they were BIG bloggers until I found them on Instagram, but I could just tell! After awhile, in my head I’m just like, ok let me go back and stand with the other “shy girl”. LOL I guess us not so confident girls feel more confident when we’re around each other? Hell, if I know. LOL
6. Don’t wear makeup when you’re wearing all white.
Especially not any of the ColourPop Ultra Satin Lipsticks. LOL (If you have no clue what I’m talking about and you’re staring at your screen like color who? Read this!) However, I ended up getting lipstick on my dress before I even got on the damn train! Like what the hell man! Plus I got makeup on the inside of my dress. Sigh! THIS is why I don’t wear makeup in the first place. LOL I can not! I’m clumsy as hell. But whatevs.
7. Don’t wear clothes that can potentially blow in the wind.
Because this is exactly how I got lipstick on my damn dress! (Want the full story on that? Click here! Just don’t laugh at my pain damn it. LOL) How to avoid this? I don’t have a freaking clue! Just don’t wear anything cape like, or loose and you’ll probably be okay. Because I never saw this coming!
8. Wearing flats all week day in and out is pretty much the same thing as wearing heels all week.
It hurts! End of story. LOL Someone told me to wear a small heel or wedge in between wearing flats all week, and it actually helped. It’s so crazy how I wore flats so my feet wouldn’t hurt in my wedges, but I ended up having to wear wedges to make my feet stop hurting in the flats. LOL Stress!
9. Don’t let a stained white dress ruin your night!
OMG! When I say I almost had a freaking fit when my dress was stained. I seriously wanted to cry! Hell, I was moments away from just turning around and going back home! But I thought I was already late, so I didn’t! While I was on the train, I gave myself a pep talk and reminded myself that the stain wasn’t going to matter while I was having fun. Plus I wanted to be the “courageous” blogger that held her head high even with a stained white dress and kept the party going. I hid the stain behind my volunteer badge and danced the night away. (Want the full story? Click this.)
10. White Dress + 1st day of period = wear Thinx
I swear my Thinx panties pretty much saved my ass! Literally! LOL (Don’t know what Thinx is? Read this!)
11. Don’t let folks attitudes get to you. Shrug it off and keep it pushing.
There were a couple of incidents where I just wanted to scream! But I let them go, so it wouldn’t affect my entire day. I mean, we can’t control what people do or say, but we can control how we react to what people do and say, right?
12. It’s okay to hit the dance floor all by yo self!
I’m normally not one to dance alone, but when that soca came on, I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to wuk mi waste. LOL So I told the other volunteer, I’d be right back and ran downstairs to the dance floor. There were a ton of other people dancing alone, so why not? It was still fun!
13. Don’t work multiple all day events back to back, unless you getting paid.
THIS right here is a big lesson! I was so freaking tired and in SO much pain after working for about two days straight, that I had started to regret the entire thing. It was no longer fun! And the fact that I was in pain because I was doing labor for someone else for free, made me change my perspective on the entire thing! My days of internships and unpaid work have been over for a while now, but I thought the networking would have been enough to get me through this. I was wrong! (Read the full story here.)
14. Always bring business cards because you never know who’s going to ask for one.
I honestly never thought anyone would ask little ol’ me for a business card, but a couple of people actually did and I was sooo glad I had packed enough! (I literally just threw them all in my bag just in case.) It was great, because it would have been really unprofessional (and stupid) to have to say, oh I’m sorry I left them at home or I don’t have any.
15. Make friends with the photographer!
Not only is it great to network with people, but making friends with one of the photographers means that you’ll have someone to reach out to for photos in case some of yours don’t come out right. And since I pretty much suck at taking photos with my phone, this is definitely needed. LOL He actually started talking to me first, but he was so friendly we exchanged contact info, and added each other on Facebook. And since he took a few photos of me off guard, I’ll be able to get those as well! (Which is probably not a good idea, but still. LOL)
16. The best thing about an all week event is: as days go by you learn faces and it becomes easier to talk to people.
I still have trouble walking right up to people I don’t know and starting a conversation. So once the first event was over, everything became a lot easier because I kept seeing the same faces over and over. By the second day, it was really easy to just walk over and say hi since we had already seen each other several times before, even if we had never uttered a single word to each other before that moment.
17. Know your limit!
I didn’t quit because I was mistreated. I quit because, well … I was tired! (You can read the full story about why I quit right here.) However, waking up at 6am, working all day, barely eating through out the day, getting home at 12pm, finally falling asleep at 1 or 2 in the morning, to have to get up at 6am and do it all over again, was a LOT! I was in so much pain I knew I had to stop. It’s the same thing even if you’re not volunteering, but just attending multiple events. When I attended New York Fashion Week I over booked my schedule as well. (Clearly it’s a bad habit. LOL) But this was way worse!
Bonus: What I didn’t learn!
Sleep? What’s that? LOL From the first event I went to, up until the last I probably got a total of eight hours of sleep. Sleep is clearly nonexistent during events like FFFWeek, but sadly enough it’s sooo needed! Guess I learned my lesson. LOL
But that’s my list! Did you attend FFFWeek? Or have you attended any events lately where you learned a few new things? If so, drop them in a comment below and let me know!
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P.s – That jacket I’m wearing in the featured photo is from Hannah Caroline Couture! Isn’t it cute? I so freaking want it! My birthday is in September y’all, I’m just saying. LOL